Using Anger Positively
I’m not sure if I have bad luck with women, or simply no luck. My most recent foray into the dating world was with a girl I thought was great and really felt there was some solid potential with. When I told her I could see us as the best of friends, hooking up, or both, she said she could see all of those possibilities happening, but she had just gotten out of a long term relationship and didn’t want to date anyone seriously just yet. I respected that, but we still went out a few times and she said she enjoyed herself each time. She did tell me she had gone out with another guy a few times but it was nothing major and nothing serious. Well the line about "I just got out of a long term relationship and don't want to date" was crap.
Late last week someone told me they had seen her round the way with another dude, and not just once, but quite often. I didn’t actually ask for this info, it was just given to me when this person asked me if I knew who the guy she was seeing was. I said no, because I didn't, but I sent her an email where, at the very end, I asked her what was up. Her reply:
The guy I told you about a few weeks ago and I have been going on more dates recently and things have been getting more serious.
My reply:
Sounds like your whole "I just got out of a serious relationship and don't want to date anyone" mantra got flushed down the toilet pretty fast. What's up with that?
She never replied, but then again I didn’t expect her, too. I’m just upset that I once again went and respected a woman’s wishes and got dicked over because of it. I knew if it became a competition between me and this other guy I wasn’t going to "win," so to speak (I know, women aren’t prizes, but I have no better analogy as of this moment). The dude is friends with her best friend from work, who she stays with damn near every other night of the week. So I was pretty much screwed and not in the way I was looking for. I think the worst part about it is that if she had been upfront from the very beginning I would have been cool with it, but now I feel like I’ve been lied to so things are a little different.
Thankfully I have releases where I can let my anger go. Yesterday at the dojo I spent the better part of an hour working with a dude who's 6'5'' 250 lbs. My instructor was like "alright, he's going to try to tackle you... don't let it happen." It was great! My 145 pound ass would not let him take me down. I even took him down a couple of times despite giving up 7 inches in height and 105 pounds! OK, so my right arm looks a little worse for wear, and I have a dope rash going down my tricep from the workout, but it was sooooooo worth it. If you think I have an alpha male complex of some kind you’re probably right. It was like I was telling a friend of mine, if I could pee all the way around my building I’d seriously consider doing it.
Since it looks like my weekend will be spent solo I’ll get the chance to watch two DVDs that have been sent to me for review, Tupac Live at the House of Blues and UFC 52. I’m psyched I finally got comped a UFC DVD. I’m looking forward to going frame by frame on a few moves and really breaking them down so I can use them myself. If I ever found a woman who wanted to watch both of these DVDs with me I think I’d be required by law to marry her.
Late last week someone told me they had seen her round the way with another dude, and not just once, but quite often. I didn’t actually ask for this info, it was just given to me when this person asked me if I knew who the guy she was seeing was. I said no, because I didn't, but I sent her an email where, at the very end, I asked her what was up. Her reply:
The guy I told you about a few weeks ago and I have been going on more dates recently and things have been getting more serious.
My reply:
Sounds like your whole "I just got out of a serious relationship and don't want to date anyone" mantra got flushed down the toilet pretty fast. What's up with that?
She never replied, but then again I didn’t expect her, too. I’m just upset that I once again went and respected a woman’s wishes and got dicked over because of it. I knew if it became a competition between me and this other guy I wasn’t going to "win," so to speak (I know, women aren’t prizes, but I have no better analogy as of this moment). The dude is friends with her best friend from work, who she stays with damn near every other night of the week. So I was pretty much screwed and not in the way I was looking for. I think the worst part about it is that if she had been upfront from the very beginning I would have been cool with it, but now I feel like I’ve been lied to so things are a little different.
Thankfully I have releases where I can let my anger go. Yesterday at the dojo I spent the better part of an hour working with a dude who's 6'5'' 250 lbs. My instructor was like "alright, he's going to try to tackle you... don't let it happen." It was great! My 145 pound ass would not let him take me down. I even took him down a couple of times despite giving up 7 inches in height and 105 pounds! OK, so my right arm looks a little worse for wear, and I have a dope rash going down my tricep from the workout, but it was sooooooo worth it. If you think I have an alpha male complex of some kind you’re probably right. It was like I was telling a friend of mine, if I could pee all the way around my building I’d seriously consider doing it.
Since it looks like my weekend will be spent solo I’ll get the chance to watch two DVDs that have been sent to me for review, Tupac Live at the House of Blues and UFC 52. I’m psyched I finally got comped a UFC DVD. I’m looking forward to going frame by frame on a few moves and really breaking them down so I can use them myself. If I ever found a woman who wanted to watch both of these DVDs with me I think I’d be required by law to marry her.
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